Attachment Styles
Habitual ways the nervous system manages closeness: secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized.
Description
These styles are protector strategies learned early: anxious parts pursue safety through proximity; avoidant parts through distance; disorganized systems oscillate. Secure attachment lets protectors trust connection and rest. Styles aren’t prisons: Rupture and Repair and Co-regulation update them over time.
What Attachment Styles is NOT:
A life sentence; your “type”; a shortcut to compatibility.
Examples:
An anxious part texts again to check you’re still there.
An avoidant part cancels plans once things feel intimate.
You name both and stay connected anyway.