Rupture and Repair

Relationships break; then they mend on purpose. This process can be therapeutic.

Description

Ruptures trigger protectors; repairs deliver CEEs. Naming impact, taking responsibility, and re-attuning teaches Parts that connection can bend without breaking.

What Rupture and Repair is NOT:

Never fighting; instant forgiveness; tit-for-tat scorekeeping.

Examples:

Calling out a misattunement and redoing it slower.
Apologizing without self-attack or counterattack.
Scheduling a debrief after a hard session.

see also:

Co-regulation; Corrective Emotional Experience (CEE); Self-Leadership; Attachment; Boundaries