IFS-Informed Communication

Speaking for your Parts, not from them.

Description

Everyday application of IFS: name internal states without projecting. “A part of me feels hurt” invites dialogue; “you hurt me” triggers protectors. In relationships, this creates space for Self on both sides and transforms fights into co-regulation practice.

What IFS-Informed Communication is NOT:

Therapy-jargon in disguise; moral superiority; emotional dumping.

Examples:

Partner says “a protector just showed up”; both pause.
You express anger while owning it as a Part’s reaction.
A team uses Parts language to de-escalate feedback loops.

see also:

Self-Leadership; Co-regulation; Rupture and Repair; Attachment