Protector Buy-In / Consent

Getting protectors’ informed consent before approaching exiles.

Description

You negotiate fears, plan safety, and agree on stop-signs. When protectors feel respected (not tricked or pushed aside or forced) they allow deeper work and often shift jobs.

What Protector Buy-In / Consent is NOT:

Coercion; therapist-knows-best; bypassing “just to get to the exile.”

Examples:

A critic agrees to observe if you pause when shame spikes.
A drinking firefighter allows mapping cravings between episodes.
A manager okays 10-minute windows with an exile plus debrief.

see also:

Protectors; Critical mass of self energy; Witnessing & Retrieval; Unburdening; Self-Leadership